Winning his heart and being the best.
Winning his heart and being
Be trustworthy: trust is something that cannot be over rated at the early stage of a relationship.If you are hoping to have a long lasting relationship? It all boils down to how he can trust you with his secrets. (Hoping you will not leak it to your friends when you ladies chat or gossip) not only secrets, finances in marriage can he trust you with his kids (you can’t trust a selfish woman with your money, family or kids), you just think about it and learn to be trustful.
Do not be a Pest: Proverbs 17:1(NIV) Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.
Why do you think men leave their family to have drinks with their friends or just leave the house and come back late in the night? The answer is simple when a man is tired of a woman’s troublemaking and frequent pestering. Most women do this by just purposely getting on the nerves of the man, putting him under undue pressure and making him feel unwanted in the house. Signs of this trait will always manifest early in relationships (courtship). This trait is most common amongst women though men are not excluded either. Remember pestering do not solve problems, it only complicate issues. (will want to make this clear I as a person will never support a man that leaves his problem and go out for solutions, just like a man fix your house and stay to protect it!)
Be presentable: I always say this to the ladies even as a wife you should always look more presentable. Am sure no matter how much your spouse or partner loves he or she would not look at you twice if you are not dressed well, and I also know that women don’t want to catch or know that their husbands or partners are looking at another woman. Even in the house, you should always look your best.
Be confident and polite: you don’t need to be afraid when you are doing the right thing NO! Learn to say yes or no with firmness and not only that in your decision-making learn to be confident, so you can make smart decisions. No one is born with good manners and it is something you can learn, politeness is not for weaklings, do your best to be of good manners.
Be full of wisdom
(Proverbs 31:26 KJV) She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. All you need is just wisdom; you need not struggle to keep your man or fight to keep your family. All you need is wisdom and you may need to learn wisdom. Your utterance must be that of wisdom, the way your tackle does difficult situation, you should also note that ‘wisdom makes you do the good thing the right way or you can say the right thing the right way.’
(Proverbs 9:13 AMP) 13 the foolish woman is noisy; she is simple and open to all forms of evil, she [willfully and recklessly] knows nothing whatever [of eternal value] ‘without wisdom you are prone to misery in a relationship or marriage’ in that difficult situation you get frustrated, cry always and constantly broken hearted feeling dejected and alone.
Proverbs 16:16(NIV) How much better to get wisdom than gold, to choose understanding rather than silver!
Be supportive: whether it is right or wrong in your mind do your part and support your spouse. Relationship grow sour mostly in marriage or about to because the partner (lady) refuse to support the man, understandably it may be a wrong idea but still, number one reason why you should support him is that you are in that relationship with him and you are there to support him in achieving purpose. So your work is to prayerfully support him.
Be resourceful: Proverbs 31:13-14, 16, 24 (KJV)
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands, she planteth a vineyard.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
You do not have to wait until you have the whole world be for you can do exploit. You can start with what you have and be disciple to make do with it, learn to be the manager of the house if possible creating wealth instead of been a liability, hanging around wait for manna or something close to that would not help at the long run. Just as Jesus turned water to wine, you also should resourceful not necessarily performing a miracle but making judicious use of what you have.
Be humble: Lowly in heart, always ready to learn and listening to correction to become better. That is what makes a woman better. Something humility gives you is that it takes you off the scene of shame and disgrace and gives you respect and grace while pride does the opposite.
Don’t be cheap:
Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. (KJV) You are not a cheap piece of clothing, how high have you placed yourself? The way you present yourself determines how you will be approached, you do not have to be rigid, stony faced or have a poor attitude towards people especially strangers. All I am saying is to place yourself high and never have a low self esteem about yourself.
Don’t concentrate on things that will not make you a better you make every moment count, so you would not regret in the future.